I am going to let my readers decide, because let's face it, I think through this blog I have proven I have AWFUL instincts when it comes to dating!
Ok, here is the back story. And by back a I mean like 15 years ago.
I was living with a guy (let's just assume it was a loser, dysfunctional relationship and move on).
I was working with another veterinarian. Wait, did I call him a veterinarian? He was the ADONIS of veterinarians.
Oh, his longer silver streaked hair. His little earring. He was the toast of the town. EVERYONE loved him. His clients, his staff, my staff, the staff at every other clinic in town.
And he was oblivious to how hot he was.
Now did I mention how sweet he was as well. He always helped at the humane society. Spaying and neutering our shelter animals for $5. Like I said a sweet-heart.
I, of course, was in love with him (because clearly I wasn't with the guy I was living with), but so was... well... the rest of the town so I didn't think any about it.
Then my relationship blew up and I left town. I went by the Adonis' practice to say good-bye. Somehow my breaking up got mentioned and he was floored.
"You can't leave."
"Um... the car is packed."
"No, I love you."
"WHAT???????????????????? I mean I love you to, but WHAT?????????????"
Turns out this whole time he had been pining for me as well. And Quote: "$5 spays? I'm a nice guy, but come on!!"
To make a very long story short, we kissed and then I left. Forever.
I know, I know. I was a retard, loser, crazy, psycho chick. I panicked and ran.
I hadn't talked to him in forever. Now about 3 years ago I looked him up and called. We had a great talk (not touching of course on any of the I love you part) and he gave me his email. I wrote and left a followup call at his house, but never heard back from him.
I let it go.
Then out of the blue I was telling this story (although not as abridged)to co-workers and they were like - look him up!!!
Which I swore I would not do.... until later ;-)
No facebook, no twitter (I mean that's a problem right there), but I do have a current photo and work number. According to his bio, he is unattached.
So? Do I let it go and chalk it up to mistakes of youth or reach out on the off chance there is something still there?
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Call him.
ReplyDeleteNo, that's not strong enough.
F*&king call him.
Now.
The worst that can happen, you'll be embarrassed.
The best that can happen, I will leave to your imagination.
I have been pining for someone who got away for 20 YEARS.
Don't make that mistake.
Call him.
Now.
I mean, don't even finish reading this comment. NOW.
Seriously.
Chance one: You didn't think he could love you so you blew it.
ReplyDeleteChance two: You'd already made plans, so you blew it.
Chance three: You chatted on the phone, but didn't mention your love, so you blew it.
(Can you see a pattern developing here?)
Call him. Not later; right now!
Tell him how you feel, how you've always felt. He loved you, and I can tell you with all certainty: that doesn't just go away.
What do you have to lose? - Not much?
What do you have to gain? - The whole world.
What?? Are you kidding me? You had better call him. Now. Right now. Right this very minute now.
ReplyDeleteWe regret what we haven't done so much more than what we have done.
If you talked with him 3 years ago and he neither returned your email or call after, that should give you a clue. He's just not into you, honey. If men are remotely interested, they will not let it go. Ask ANY man and they will say the same thing. If a woman opens a door a little like you did, they will leap through it.
ReplyDeleteYou seem like such a great woman - don't chase and don't settle.
I found the man of my dreams once I realized I needed to stop looking, open the door, relax and stress I was NOT looking to men I came across.
"I would rather regret the things that I have done than the things that I have not."
ReplyDelete-Lucille Ball
If there's still a lingering 'what-if' about this guy, than you need to put in a last ditch effort. Call him Carolyn. Call him.
Wasn't sure how to reach you but I think your twitter has been hacked.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you just simply email him and invite him to call you if he would like. Do you visit his city? If so why not invite him to coffee. Does he visit your city. Invite him to dinner. Make it simple so he feels fine either way.
ReplyDeleteIts not like you don't know he has/once had feelings for you. I say call him. Of course, I would be reluctant to but I always give the good advice that I need to take myself. Best.
ReplyDeleteOMG!!! CALL HIM! Really what is the worst that can happen. Pls post what happens next.
ReplyDeleteUm, der? For a smart chick, you scare me sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAsk yourself this question: what's the worst that can happen? That answer should make your decision easy, doll.
Dr. Rachel, out.
Its not like you don't know he has/once had feelings for you. I say call him. Of course, I would be reluctant to but I always give the good advice that I need to take myself. Best.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you just simply email him and invite him to call you if he would like. Do you visit his city? If so why not invite him to coffee. Does he visit your city. Invite him to dinner. Make it simple so he feels fine either way.
ReplyDeleteChance one: You didn't think he could love you so you blew it.
ReplyDeleteChance two: You'd already made plans, so you blew it.
Chance three: You chatted on the phone, but didn't mention your love, so you blew it.
(Can you see a pattern developing here?)
Call him. Not later; right now!
Tell him how you feel, how you've always felt. He loved you, and I can tell you with all certainty: that doesn't just go away.
What do you have to lose? - Not much?
What do you have to gain? - The whole world.