Another category of internet date guy is the 'mute.'
Now let's be clear, they aren't mute when it comes to emails. They aren't mute when they talk on the phone.
At dinner however, they don't say a word.
It is like the cat not only got their tongue but stole their voice box as well.
They also tend to fall into the 'I can't look you in the face' sub-category of men.
So yes, there I am out on a date sitting right across from a guy for nearly an hour (after about the 3rd one of these I switched to meeting for drinks rather than a whole hour of silence) without them speaking a word to me or even looking at me.
Before you think poorly of me, I dig shy. I like shy guys. A lot of my male friends are on the shy and even anti-socially shy side. I've got plenty to say and can usually fill the space easily.
I am not talking shy here. I am talking aversion therapy!
Now, of course because I am just a little bit evil, that only makes me want to mess with their minds by carrying on both sides of the conversation or asking point blank questions then giving them a minute to respond before I move onto the next, you know stuff to keep me entertained.
One might think that these men got in over their head or just didn't like me so they clammed up. Which is what I might have guessed as well, only EACH and EVERY one of them would e-mail later and say what a great time he had and ask me out again.
Dude, I am sorry but if I wanted to date a mime... Wait a minute, I DON'T want to date a mime! #duh #seriously
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I thought they only started doing that AFTER you married them. Sheesh! I like the idea of holding your own conversation whether they want to join or not. That's something I would do.
ReplyDeleteBut to be fair to every man I've ever dated, I'm a big talker. So you gotta hold up the conversation with me or perish. My Hubs (a man who just loves to talk, especially to strangers in the liquor store) often just looks at me and says "Ok. That's great baby. And now we're gonna have a little silence so you can rest yourself. Just think quietly to yourself about what you want to say when it's over."
Yeah, I hate him. lol
If they are doing this before they are married what will happen after the "I DO's".
ReplyDeleteShy is good...Silent is scary. Just what are they thinking?
We like it when you get a little bit evil and would enjoy hearing you carry on both sides of the convo!
ReplyDeleteI agree with the bench gals... I would have LOVED to hear you carry both sides of the convo at once:)
ReplyDeleteI thought they only started doing that AFTER you married them. Sheesh! I like the idea of holding your own conversation whether they want to join or not. That's something I would do.
ReplyDeleteBut to be fair to every man I've ever dated, I'm a big talker. So you gotta hold up the conversation with me or perish. My Hubs (a man who just loves to talk, especially to strangers in the liquor store) often just looks at me and says "Ok. That's great baby. And now we're gonna have a little silence so you can rest yourself. Just think quietly to yourself about what you want to say when it's over."
Yeah, I hate him. lol